How To Discipline Teenagers Who Always Disobey Family Rules

When you discipline teenage members of the family for the first time, you should remember a couple of things. One, they may still be kids because they are under the age of 18, but their way of thinking is not like that of elementary students. Two, although scolding used to work on your young children, that may no longer be the case for adolescents.

The reason why we find it necessary to remind of you these things is that teenagers are at the stage in life wherein becoming rebellious seems easy. “Who cares if my parents ground me? I can sneak out when they fall asleep.” “Why should I worry about obeying their rules? I am old enough to make them myself.”

Knowing that kind of mindset of most adolescents, therefore, a parent should avoid disciplining one like a young kid. Yes, regardless of how disobedient the teenager may be. Here are some practical tips on what you should do.

Anticipate Various Scenarios Beforehand

Are you familiar with the process of expecting the worst? What it means is that you have to imagine the most overwhelming situations that can take place in your household to prepare for them. For instance, your child starts stealing stuff from the stores or becomes a habitual liar.

While it may not happen in reality, anticipating such scenarios will keep you from feeling shocked if they do occur. Thus, you will know how to react without losing your composure and avoid worsening the situation.

Let The Children Understand That Only Good Behaviors Get Rewarded

Keep in mind that teenagers need guidance to identify what characteristics are acceptable or not. That is regardless of the fact that their physical appearance may resemble that of an adult more. Furthermore, they require constant reminding of the things they should be doing so that they can avoid toeing the line.

An excellent way to encourage adolescents to fix their attitude is by rewarding every good deed. Simple praises like “Great job!” or “You did well!” can mean so much for these kids, you know. If you can give them a new smartphone or laptop or even a car after achieving a huge milestone, that will be amazing too.

Avoid Talking About Consequences Without Enforcing Them

It is typical for parents to set consequences for every house rule broken by the teenager. Say, if they go to a party without telling you, you may take away their internet privileges for a specific period. In case they focus on being with friends instead of studying, you may stop them from going out for a while.

The thing is, once you mention a consequence, you should ensure that you will genuinely enforce it. Otherwise, the children will think that you are bluffing. That will give them the idea that you are too soft-hearted, that they can break the rules and not get punished for doing so.

Inform Them How To Solve Problems

Some adolescents tend to become unruly as well when they come across an issue that they don’t know how to resolve. For instance, a classmate that they like since seventh grade turns out to have a crush on their friend. That’s when these kids start to get moody or depressed, to the point that they stop caring about anything.

Considering your teenager acts up all of a sudden, you cannot leave it up to raging hormones. You ought to find out what’s bothering them, and then teach them the possible ways to solve the matter. It is more advisable than fighting your kid’s battles because they should learn how to stand up for themselves early.

Don’t Repeat Yourself

If there’s one thing that adolescents despise the most, it seems to be the nagging that some parents regularly do. Whenever the child forgets to fix their bed or drop their dirty clothes in the laundry bag, for instance, the mom or dad cannot help but utter the same lines over and over. “If you don’t do what I’ve been telling you to do, you can’t see your friends today.” “If you don’t clean your room, you can’t use your smartphone.”

The truth is that the more you give a teenager an earful about the same issue, the more they may not listen to you. Worse, the youngster might even intentionally anger you by doing the opposite of what you ask. The only way out of it is by merely laying out your rules once, giving a warning once, and enforcing the consequence when they repeat the offense so that the adolescent knows not to mess with you again.

To Wrap Up

When you deal with a disobedient teenager, it does not have to end up with both of you shouting. You want them to listen for their good. At the same time, they should not lose their respect to you. You can only achieve two things at once when you follow the tips above.

Good luck!…

Understanding The Psychology Of Teenagers And Online Curfews

We have the fondest memories of our teenage years. During our teenage years, we discover more about ourselves and the world around us. However, because of our raging hormones, our teenage years are also one most of the confusing periods in our lives.

 

When we become parents, we seem to forget that we too have gone through puberty. Of course, we would want our children to live a better life, but struggle on how to have a balance between freedom and control.

 

Setting up curfews, especially online curfews, for your teenager is one of the ways to help them be productive and functioning adults. Specifically, understand the psychology of teenagers and how online curfews affect behavior here.

 

 

The Psychology Of Teenagers

How do teenagers think and decide? More importantly, what are the things that go on inside a teenager’s mind? To answer these questions, we must go through the psychology of teenagers.

 

Teenage years are a person’s transition from childhood to adulthood. During puberty, a teenager undergoes rapid physical and emotional changes. Furthermore, we don’t see the developments that happen in a teenager’s brain, which mostly affects their day to day functions.

 

Because the teenager’s brain is still developing, their decision-making functions are not as sophisticated as compared to adults. Thus, teenagers often base their decisions on how they are feeling. Most of the time, these decisions are spur of the moment and irrational. They also tend to be risk-takers as a result. During these times, teenagers need the guidance of parents to be able to decide wisely.

 

How Are Teenagers Wired Nowadays?

Teenagers nowadays act as if the internet is like the air that they breathe. They feel that they cannot survive a day without going online. Upon waking up, what do most teenagers do? They check each of their social media accounts even before they even brush their teeth. They chat their friends on Viber, post a selfie on Snapchat, and post their thoughts on Twitter before actually starting their day.

 

However, teenagers should still be guided regarding their activity on social media and the internet in general. Thus, imposing limitations such as online curfews should come into play.

 

 

The Importance Of Online Curfews

If you find it hard to talk to your child because he/ she is glued to his/ her smartphone all day or you are alarmed by your child’s school performance drop because of online addiction, maybe it’s high time you establish an online curfew.

 

 

Online curfews are beneficial for both parents and teenagers. Parents are assured that their children will be able to get adequate sleep and they can finish their homework on time. On the other hand, teenagers are protected from the dangers of online gaming addiction and other potential risks such as pornography and sexual predators.

 

Establish a set curfew time and enforce it strictly. For example, if you already announced that your curfew is at 10 pm, don’t change it to 11 pm just because your child requested an extension. Several applications can help you monitor your child’s online activity. If you see your child violating your rule, you can ground them or take away their gadget for a set period.

 

To sum it up, to properly help your teen transition into a functioning adult, your role is to guide them every step of the way. However, you should also learn to strike a balance between allowing your teen to discover himself/ herself and checking on them now and then.

 

Why?

 

In this digital age, it’s reasonably easy to access any information in just a few clicks. Your teen will be able to see potentially unsafe information online if they are entirely left to their own devices, unguarded. Online curfews will help in you monitor your child’s online activities, especially in the evening and protect them from potential harm.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Types of Curfews

Most of the time, we can hear the word ‘curfew’ from our parents or legal guardians. Most of us if not all, have an experience with it. In your adolescent years, you might think of it as your parent’s punishment for being out of the house for too long that you will only have a specific time to be out at night. But do you know that the word curfew is a legal term and there are laws that concern about it?

The Different Types of Curfew

Curfew laws are laws that would restrict, limit or prohibit the right of the subject to be out in public at specific hours, or in other cases, oblige businesses to close their stores or offices during specified hours. For instances, these time restrictions order the citizens of a given state or city what amount of time they are allowed in public places. There are three main types of curfew laws: Youth or Juvenile curfew laws, Emergency curfew laws, and Business curfew laws. Below are short explanations of each law.

  1. Youth or Juvenile curfew laws – The main aim of this law is defined as the maintenance of the social order of a certain place and the prevention of possible committed crimes by under-aged citizens. Juvenile curfew laws are implemented in many states or cities which prohibits under-aged citizens to go to business establishments or public places in specific hours (usually during at night). However, there are instances that such law is waived when an underage is being accompanied by a parent or a guardian and experiencing an emergency.
  2. Emergency curfew laws – There are city laws that allow a high ranking official or anyone in charge of the city or state to have the power to implement curfew-related actions in response to any local or state emergencies. If you consider what happened in the pasts to most of the cities, the main reasons of emergency curfews were because of some disastrous events that cannot be prevented such as blizzards, wildfires, hurricanes, riots in the public and also acts of terrorisms. Thus, in simple terms, emergency curfews are being implemented by the state’s government during the crisis, catastrophic events, and even natural disasters.
  3. Business curfew laws – There are a number of cities that implemented business curfew laws to request business establishments to cease in operation especially during late-night hours. It usually starts at 11 o’clock in the evening up until 5 o’clock in the morning. Just like the youth curfew law, the main reason for business curfew law is to prevent the increase of untoward violence and incidence of local crimes. However, this law does not apply to pharmacies and bars that are open 24-hours.

These laws are implemented and regulated to serve its main purpose of securing the welfare of the people in certain cities and state. They aim to provide assurance of low crimes and casualties in public areas that might happen if not attended.

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Curfews: In the Eyes of the Youth

Curfew is a regulation or a ground rule that is restricting people outdoors thus making them stay inside their homes. It is usually implemented during at nights starting and ending in specified hours. There are some places that the government or state officials have been practicing curfews primarily for the safety purposes of people. However, in most instances, the youth are actually the ones who are greatly affected by the rule.

There are three types of curfew laws and one of which is what we call Youth Curfew law. The Youth or Juvenile curfew laws are implemented in cities or states restricting an age group, usually below 18 years-old, in going to public places or in any business structures in a specified certain hours. These laws usually prohibit children to go outside their houses especially at night times. However, it is different from other places’ jurisdictions depending on the season, specific locations, age groups, the consequences of disobedience, times and seasons. Basically, the main reason for such laws is to restrict if not remove every minor within the city or town’s parameter especially on the streets.

Agree or Disagree

Young people (mostly teenagers) have a lot to say with regard to Juvenile curfew law. Nearly all of them, if not all, have expressed their opinion with the way how the government treats them. Though the majority of parents would like to agree on the advantages it can bring, some children can explain their thoughts more vividly.

Ady Lam, an 11-year-old from Island school said, “I believe that teenagers should have a curfew.”This teen also points out that they have exams that need to prepare for, notes that need to be written down, homework that needs to be answered and projects that need to be finished. If they would choose to stay outside their houses especially at night, it will lessen their time to do those things. The child also added the possibility of some unwanted things that could happen during at night. Being in the house will not only give him the opportunity to do a lot of things but also feel secure and safe during late hours.

Joy Lee, a 14-year-old from South Island School said,” I believe that teenagers should not have a curfew as it doesn’t allow for freedom.” Joy also cited the importance of every young one to have an independent mindset emphasizing that each should already know how to take care of themselves by being independent enough to decide what time to go home and thus, creating a ‘being-trusted-by-parents’ approach in certain situations. She also points out that if the adult wants them to grow then they have to be confident that they will learn life lessons on their own.

The divided views of the youth clearly state that the law is not about what people want but what people need. There are those who agree with it and there are those who do not due to their rights of freedom.…

Teen Curfews And Why They Are Necessary

 

 

If you ask me, I am all for curfews. I have a daughter who’s growing up to be assertive, carefree and independent. I love her for these traits but I also know that it would be difficult to set certain rules that might make her feel that I’m taking away too much of her freedom, especially when it comes to curfews. Though most parents agree with the curfews set by the government for juveniles, still some think that they should be allowed to set their own home rules for their kids, those that both parents and kids talk with and agree upon and not those that are officially enforced by law. Perhaps it is because as parents we would like to be the ones to reprimand our kids, and it would be a pain to see them detained in a cell overnight because they didn’t get home when they were supposed to.…