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Tips On How To Maintain Peace With Your Teenager

When you speak of teenagers, the words “rebellious” and “fickle-minded” often come up to describe them. Everyone gets that it’s just a growth phase, similar to how toddlers go through the terrible two. Regardless of that, things can become quite a ruckus at home when they start acting up and focusing on disobeying you.

The question is, what should you – the parent – do to maintain peace with your teenage son or daughter?…

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How To Set Teenage Curfews

Setting curfews to growing teens whose night lives are getting more exciting is one of the most challenging things parents need to do. It’s a topic that parents often discuss with fellow parents, asking for advice on what worked for them and what didn’t. They know that curfews need to be set to protect their teens and prevent them from causing trouble. However, the teen years are undeniably the start of the night-outs, the dates, and the parties. This is where the misunderstanding of the parents and the teens occur. They will surely fight for their social freedom, their time with friends, their independence.…

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Why Your Teen Needs a Curfew, No Matter Their Age

When children start getting older, it’s only natural that you’d want to give them more freedom. After all, you want to make sure that they can have fun with their friends and really stretch their wings. But at the same time, it’s important to keep some of the ground rules firmly in place. You don’t want to just open the doors and let your child run wild, after all. It can end in a whole lot of problems that you’d rather not have.

 

Getting Into Trouble

For one thing, kids who don’t have a curfew tend to get into trouble. It may not be serious trouble like drugs or shoplifting, but they tend to do dumb things because they’re kids who think those dumb things are fun. Someone can easily get hurt because they’re doing something that they’re not supposed to do or worse, perform acts against the law. Even unintentionally, it’s possible to get into serious trouble just from being out late. By implementing curfew, you can reduce the chances of troubles and problems with kids being out at night.

 

Keep Rules Important

You need to have a curfew so that your child will understand the concept of rules. If your household has very few rules, make sure that these are strictly followed. Having a curfew, even for a good kid that you know won’t get into trouble, can still help them understand that there are always going to be rules and they need to make sure they follow those rules. You may set a later curfew, knowing that your child will still do what they are supposed to do, but having that curfew is a good discipline and responsibility type of standard.

 

Get Plenty of Sleep

Children, even teens, need about 8 hours of sleep each night. If they don’t get enough sleep, it can interfere with their daily life including their school and social life. You need to make sure that your child is getting the right amount of sleep which leads you to set up a “be home by this time” curfew. Your child also has to get to bed at a certain time so that he can be ready for school early the next morning.

 

Exceptions to the Rule

There can be some exceptions to the rule. Maybe you have a curfew of 11 pm, but your child wants to go to a 10 pm movie and won’t be back by curfew time. If this type of thing is fine with you, then, make sure that you implement a rule where they must check in with you before making these kinds of changes or decisions. It is not an absolute exception and will be determined on a case-by-case basis.

No matter what, your children are the most important beings to you and taking care of them includes implementing a curfew that keeps them in the house when they need to be. Getting the right amount of sleep and staying out of trouble is very important so that they can grow up to be well-rounded adults. Staying out at night whenever they want to is definitely not going to help with this, so make sure that you talk to them about the importance of a curfew and give them input on what and how it’s going to be.…

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Teaching Good Habits To Unruly Teens

Habits are usually formed at a young age, regardless of whether they’re good or bad. They may be simple or complex but nevertheless, they make a powerful impact on the future of your teenagers. Good habits improve your chances of achieving your dreams in life while bad habits stop you from reaching them. It is vital as parents that we teach our teenage kids how to develop good habits and how to eliminate the bad ones.…

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The Changes When Your Doting Child Becomes A Teenager

 

Maybe you thought you would be one of the lucky ones and your precious little boy or girl would still cling to you, even when they become a teenager. Maybe you’re still holding on to hope that when your child turns 13 or 14, they aren’t going to push you to the side and hate you just like a moody teen. But the truth is that this will happen at some point in time, though the extent to how it transpires can be different from one parent to another.…

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The True Difficulties Of Parenting A Teen

There’s no way to sum up all of the difficult parts of raising a teenager in one short article, but some of the most important ones can definitely be discussed right here.

 

They Want Independence

A teenager is going to want independence more than anything else. They want to make their own choices and have their own way. They want to be able to go out with their friends when they want and do things themselves, without having parents around all the time. The independence however, isn’t all the way through.

 

They Want Support

Teenagers are going through a really rough time in their life. Things are changing and they don’t really know what they should do or how to accept all of those changes. So they try to push their independence but at the same time they’re going to be looking to you even more than normal. They want to know that even though they’re older they can still count on you to be there for them. They’re going to need support more than ever, but they’re not going to ask for it because they feel too grown up.

 

They Want to Push the Limits

It’s not just about asking for independence either. Your teenager is going to try pushing the limits on their own, without asking permission. They may break the rules (or bend them) and they may argue with you more than normal because they want to know what the limits are and they want to be able to set their own. This can mean minor breaches in the rules or it could mean major things that they aren’t supposed to do, but they want to know what they can get away with.

 

They Need Structure

At this point in time, your teenager needs structure more than ever. They need to know that if they do something right they get a reward (even if it’s just you acknowledging the good deed) and if they do something wrong it’s going to have a set punishment. If you start letting them break the rules whenever they want it leaves them feeling stranded and completely confused about their life and what they can and can’t do. It may seem like you’re letting them be independent, but breaking the rules needs to be punished just like you’ve told them it will be or you leave them feeling lost.

 

The World is Changing

One of the most difficult things about your child growing up is that the world is changing and they’ll start growing up a whole lot faster than you might think. Rather than just being a teenager who wants some independence your child may end up experimenting with things they are too young for or even things that are flat-out illegal no matter their age. These are the things that you need to watch out for and always monitor for signs that your child is getting involved.

You want to make sure your child understands the world around them and you do want them to grow into their own, but protecting them is part of being a parent. Make sure they are warned about the things that they will be pressured to do and that they are prepared for what they will do. You can’t be with them all the time and all of these things are going to make it more difficult for them and for you as they grow up, but it’s definitely going to be an important time for them and for you. Make sure you understand what they are going through and help them through it.…

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What Can You Teach Your Teen Now To Protect Them Later?

 

Your teenager is getting ahead in his life in a way that he doesn’t fully understand – just like you and me when we were younger, remember? He’s starting to get older and is experimenting on things, but it’s up to you to help him out with this and that means starting as soon as possible with explaining some of the important things in life.…

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How To Deal With Your Rebellious Son

One of the greatest challenges of being parents is raising their children well. People often praise them for having well-mannered and behaved kids, for disciplining them, for having taught them to be respectful and courteous. But when the child becomes a teenager, a teenage son at that, there is no telling when he does something that parents will not be happy about.

It is a terrifying reality to have a rebellious son – by rebellious meaning defiant, wayward, disobedient. The fear is overwhelming to the point that parents would often stress about their son’s whereabouts and activities every time. And while other parents devote themselves to almost anything that concerns their teen son, others are otherwise oblivious of the risks and warning signs that are happening right under their nose. They believe that teenage years are part of their son’s life and that everything he goes through, he will eventually outgrow on his own. But when the teenage son is caught drinking while driving, or got into detention for vandalism or for joining a gang, or has to get into a juvenile facility for help with drug addiction or bullying, now that is a different story.

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Parenting the Wayward Teen

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Who honestly enjoys parenting when the child has reached that awkward phase? Teens are often hard to cope with because they are at an age where they aren’t quite children but aren’t quite adults either and it’s hard for the entire family. When a teen has become a little less unruly, it can be worse because parents get the end of their rope and aren’t sure which way to turn. So, how is it possible to parent a wayward teen? If you have a wayward teen and don’t know how to deal with them, you may wish to seek help with online counseling or read more here!

You Must Find Out What Has Changed

Wayward teens spring up overnight, but there is usually a reason as to why their behavior has changed. It doesn’t matter if the child has always been a bit of trouble. You must do your best to find out why they feel the need to stay out all night and cause trouble. There might be a serious problem behind it all and it’s vital for the child to find out what that is. Yes, it’s not going to be easy. It’s going to be very difficult, but it’s necessary for the child’s sake.

Talk To Them

Have you tried talking to the teen? Sometimes, the teen is acting out because of the way they’re feeling. It could be that they have been bullied, fallen out with a best friend, broken up with a boy or girl, or just feel bad about themselves. Whatever it is, you need to find out. If you can talk to them not acting like a parent, you might be able to get through to them. Kids go through a lot of emotions, and even a lot of adults do too. But with children, they can often lock their feelings away. Talking to them without shouting or acting too much like a mom or dad might just do the trick – it’s worth a shot.…

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