Nowadays, many parents have a hard time disciplining their children. With teenage rebellion being rampant worldwide, it’s important for parents to assess their parenting methods to see if it’s healthily effective or not. Besides this, it’s also important to be sensitive as it may also affect their mental health.
In Human Psychology, the adolescent stage is usually the point where teens feel the need for identity exploration to understand what their role in life is. In Erikson’s 8 Psychosocial Stages of Development, the fifth component, ‘Identity vs. Role Confusion,’ explains how teens face an identity crisis tending to allow different pressures and external factors to influence their decision-making to achieve a sense of independence and purpose.
Given this manifestation, adolescents can be influenced easily. When teens explore, they meet different people and see more of the realities of life. Through this, they’re able to get an idea of what they aspire and who they want to be.
Rebellion: Normal Or Not?
In the course of teens’ exploration, their experiences lead to identity and values formation. Because of this, they learn to have their own stands against different issues and norms, leading to what parents think of as rebellion.
Despite it being normal, there are many alternatives to address the issue to guide them without being a dictator. Effective parenting is essential because parents have a significant role and impact on the growth and mental health of their teen.
Mental Health Above Else
When we discipline our children, we have to ensure their mental health is also taken care of. We may think parents always know what’s best for them, but they have to feel their parents understand them. The children must not believe that their parents against them.
Mental health is an issue many advocates for because some parents forget about it when they discipline their child. For teenagers, being at this stage can be confusing given all the influences surrounding them. They may have a hard time understanding everything all at once leading to some cases of mental health problems. It’s our duty as parents to holistically guide them and create strategies to help them cope, making them feel that we are with them in their development.
Tips and Strategies
It’s never wrong to explore and discover, but at all costs, we must protect and develop the youth properly. As much as we’d want them to find themselves, it’s just right to put limits to lessen the dangers they could get into. With this, let me introduce the concept of curfews.
Curfews Equal Caution
Curfews may seem ‘old school’ but in fact, are necessary because as much as young people would want to have a taste of independence, they’re still vulnerable to the dangers of the real world. As parents, our main concern is our children’s safety, and with this, setting curfews can be an effective way to train underaged youth to be responsible, punctual, and mature. In this way, we can lessen risks such as unexpected accidents as well.
Some may argue that curfews make teens more rebellious. But in reality, it can be an avenue to strengthen parent-child relationships as it gives way to dialogue to hear the conditions of both parties. Through curfews, teens can learn how to reason out and compromise with their parents instilling values that can lead to one’s maturity.
Curfews don’t immediately equate to barriers. It’s simply teaching the under-aged youth to be independently responsible so they can stay out of trouble, develop prioritization and management skills, and develop into the mature young adult they want to be.…